What You Say, Is It Really Understood?
As an 'experience collector,' I've spent a long time observing the theme of 'communication' amidst various moments in life. Today, I want to talk about a 'blind spot in communication' that we often overlook without realizing it.
We frequently underestimate the importance of our tone and language. However, speaking beautifully isn't just about external softness. It's evidence of our intellectual capacity to be considerate of others and a mark of the dignity gained from mastering proper communication. Just as positive language creates a positive atmosphere, thoughtful words can turn a situation around positively and elevate the speaker's grace.
The Core is 'Clarity': Are Your Words Truly Resonating?
Yet, the true blind spot of language lies in 'how well it is delivered.' For instance, imagine trying to explain the function of a complex object to a young child. You would likely use very simple and plain words, perhaps even explaining it repeatedly and in such detail that it feels 'excessive.'
This is where we find the biggest communication problem of modern people. We often fail to effectively convey what we are thinking to the other person. While refraining from unnecessary words can prevent problems, the story changes when we omit necessary explanations. The other person can misunderstand, and this often leads to issues.
You might think communication is sufficient with just "subject and verb."
But without appropriate adverbs and adjectives, the other person might not be able to imagine the image you have in mind.
Even when hearing the same sentence, people form different imaginations based on their individual experiences. Therefore, the most crucial aspect of communication is how accurately you can convey your opinion to the other person, tailored to their background and context.
The 'Misunderstanding Multiplier' in the Age of Media Development
Despite media advancements endlessly expanding channels of communication, we paradoxically find ourselves in a situation where we can't even learn 'how to communicate.' This isn't a critique of media itself. It simply means we must not fall into the misconception that 'since I said it, they must have understood.'
True communication means your message precisely reaches the other person's mind and heart. Sometimes as simply as explaining to a child, other times as richly as crafting a vivid sentence. When the words containing your experience and wisdom are truly delivered, misunderstandings lessen, and greater understanding and connection begin.